Baz Porter standing in golden light, confident expression, with shadows of the past fading behind him—symbolizing emotional healing and strength.

Why They Hate You When You Heal

April 18, 20252 min read

You start healing. Suddenly, they start hating.
Ever notice that?

You say no.
You set boundaries.
You speak your truth—finally.

And out of nowhere, the people who claimed to love you… flip.

They say you’ve “changed.”
That you’re “selfish now.”
That you’ve “forgotten who you are.”

No. You just remembered.


👁️ Why Healing Makes People Uncomfortable

Here’s the truth:

Some people only loved you because you were broken enough to need them.
To keep peace. Stay small. Be available.

But when you evolve—when you stop living to be liked—you become unrecognizable to the people who only knew your wounds.

They don’t hate you.
They hate that you’re no longer easy to control.


🧠 The Hidden Grief of Growth

When you heal:

  • You outgrow relationships built on dysfunction

  • You stop explaining your boundaries

  • You realize you’ve been living someone else’s version of your life

Yes, you’ll lose people.
Yes, they’ll talk.

But you’ll gain you.

And that’s the only win that matters.


💣 Burnout Isn’t Just Fatigue—It’s Suppressed Selfhood

You’re not just tired—you’re emotionally bankrupt from over-functioning.

That’s why I built the RAMS Method™:
A soul-aligned, trauma-informed system that helps high-performing women like you rewire old patterns and reclaim power at the root.

No fluff. No performance coaching.
Real emotional mastery. Real results.


⚔️ This Is Who I Serve

  • The executive who looks unstoppable but feels numb

  • The overachiever afraid to slow down

  • The mother who’s secretly afraid she’s failing her family by being present

Through The Woman Reclaimed™ and A Million Dreams™, we rebuild not just identity—but sovereignty.


🧭 Your Next Move (If You’re Ready to Be Untouchable)


Let them hate.
Let them gossip.
Let them miss the version of you that served their comfort.

You’re not here to shrink anymore.
You’re here to lead—from wholeness.

Baz Porter is the visionary founder of R.A.M.S by Baz, a dedicated high-performance coaching program designed to elevate the lives of CEOs, executives, and entrepreneurs. With over 15 years of refining his methodologies, Baz is a luminary in transforming leadership abilities through the core principles of his R.A.M.S framework—Results, Attitude, Mastery, and Systems. His coaching transcends conventional boundaries by addressing not only the outward appearances of success but the inner conflicts and turmoil often overlooked by others.

Baz Porter®

Baz Porter is the visionary founder of R.A.M.S by Baz, a dedicated high-performance coaching program designed to elevate the lives of CEOs, executives, and entrepreneurs. With over 15 years of refining his methodologies, Baz is a luminary in transforming leadership abilities through the core principles of his R.A.M.S framework—Results, Attitude, Mastery, and Systems. His coaching transcends conventional boundaries by addressing not only the outward appearances of success but the inner conflicts and turmoil often overlooked by others.

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